Well I have to admit I never thought I would see the day where I was agreeing with Kirstie Allsopp I have to admit! However over the weekend through RT’s I got wind of a debate going on with Kirstie Allsopp at the heart of it relating to C-sections and the lack of information the NCT provides based upon C-sections.
Anyone who’s read my blog for any length of time will already be aware that I had an emergency c-section with my son and will be having a (hopefully) planned c-section with this pregnancy, presuming I don’t go into labour early and then this will require an emergency c-section.
Being pregnant second time around and trying to find information about planned c-sections is next to impossible. Which is extremely frustrating and puts me off paying extortionate prices for magazines when they are filled with labour techniques and no mention of what can happen with a c-section. I know obviously we need to all be prepared for labour, but what about Mums that are not able to push. Who have to have a c-section. We should be getting articles about our recovery, ways to cope, how long scars take to heal etc.
What bugs me the most about the whole stigma surrounding them is the phrase “Too posh to push”. Every time i read that my blood boils. Not all c-sections are a lazy womans answer. For some of us we are unable to birth naturally for any number of reasons such as heart problems, underlying health issues, position of the baby, size of the baby etc. Many of these women, like myself in my first pregnancy, have spent a good 30 weeks sometimes the whole 40 thinking they are going to be able to birth naturally and have their own ideal birth only to get a last minute shock when that doesn’t happen and they end up having what ultimately is serious surgery.
For me my first pregnancy consisted of me reading everything about how to birth, positions, techniques, breathing, aids such as balls and tens machines and I maybe read one or two small articles on what a c-section involved. It was only after 24 hours of labour that an emergency c-section occurred and that was not a choice that I made, it was in the hands of the consultants who knew that my sons heart rate was dropping and they had no other option but to get him out the quickest way possible, through the sunroof!!
This time around I saw my consultant at 7 weeks and we immediately discussed the fact that there was no other option but a c-section for me. I cant birth naturally due to my lovely two uterus’ so rather than putting mine and my baby’s life at risk by even trying we have agreed on a much calmer (I hope) planned c-section at 36-38 weeks. BUT unlike with natural births where you attend antenatal classes at the hospital or with the NCT my midwife told me immediately that it probably wouldnt be worth it as they never mention c-sections. It’s like women having planned c-sections weather choice or through necessity are outkast, adding to the stigma that there is.
The NCT’s Chief exec argues that they don’t have the time to cover c-sections. But what about offering a course for mums who will be having planned c-sections, they offer courses for mums to multiples, so why not those with c-sections. What upset me the most though was to read that a couple who had an emergency section were not invited back to share their experience with other expectant parents when all the others in their group were. Again a discrimination against c-section parents.
Mrs Phipps is quoted as saying “Our view on Caesareans is we would want to make sure women don’t have a procedure if it could have been prevented” – however in my experience NO amount of preparation can get over the fact that sometimes health issues mean a c-section is required! Kirstie was completely on the ball when she tweeted “Not talking C-sections during a childbirth course is like not talking Shakespeare during an English literature course”. The fact of the matter is c-sections are a big part of childbirth, emergency c-sections happen, and often women have absolutely no idea what is happening to them because there has been no mention of it. Maybe the PND that alot of mums who have had c-sections suffer would be alleviated if through sources such as the NCT educating parents about the possibility of them better would help them feel less of a failure.
Did you have a c-section? Will you be? Did you find enough information?