Sibling Age Gaps – A wider one…

This is a repost for a link up Circus Queen has done:

Yesterday a fellow NaBloPoMo blogger, Mummy mishaps, wrote about the age gap between her two boys. It got me thinking about the age gap between my boys.

In our household there is a 4 year and 8 month (and 5 days if you want to be picky) gap between DS1 and DS2. I had a miscarriage in 2009, had that pregnancy survived I would have had about 2 years, 8 months between them. So I almost came close to having two children close together.

Growing up I always dreamt of my family unit and what it would be like when I was “grown up” and I always envisaged siblings to have a close age gap. I am the oldest child and my brother is just 18 months younger than me. I was a miracle baby and my brother was even more of an unexpected but happy miracle baby. So my poor Mum had two under two! Personally I think anyone that does that it is admirable! I don’t think I could!

I remember after having DS1 being disappointed at the reality that he wouldn’t have a sibling close in age, I then remember when I fell pregnant in 2009 being thrilled that there would only be a 2yr 8month gap. Now I have a 4yr 8 month gap, and do you know what? Its brilliant! Many of my regular readers know how much I worried about how DS1 would react to a new sibling, after all he’d had four years of being the centre of Mummys universe and having all my attention. And I was thrilled when he immediately fell in love with his baby brother.

So here are my pros and cons to our age gap:

PROS

  • Because DS1 is at school I get to spend quality time with DS2 during the day and then in the evenings when Grandma is round I get to focus some time on DS1, so I don’t feel torn between two children. Nor do I have to juggle activities such as baby massage etc with a older child. 
  • DS1 is more independent and likes to do things for himself and is far less reliant on me as his toddler days. 
  • DS1 talks, he communicates effectively and can tell me what he wants and needs, I don’t have to second guess what it is he is after thus making things a heck of a lot quicker than the days of playing “guess what the child is trying to communicate!”
  • DS1 has become a fantastic little helper when it comes to his brother and talking to him if he is grouchy.
  • DS1 is DS2s favourite form of entertainment!
  • DS1 imitates the baby speak he hears from me and will sit and talk to moo in the exact same tones!
CONS
Okay I’m struggling to think of any?!
  • Not needing a double buggy! What?? I’ve always been intrigued as to how well they handle etc!
  • The fact that I’d got rid of all DS1 baby stuff as I never imagined I’d have another baby within any reasonable time span!
That really is all I can think of for the negatives! I never imagined I would enjoy having such an age gap as I thought I would. I’d always dreamed of children close together! But do you know what? I wouldn’t change it for the world.
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4 thoughts on “Sibling Age Gaps – A wider one…

  1. It’s nice to read a post with your experiences from a larger age gap. At the endof the day whatever the difference in ages you cope and your children adjust fthe changes. I was just worried that I wouldn’t be ale to cope but I have in my own way – just at times lol. I think a pro of having an older sibling is that they free you up during the day to have that one on one time with the new baby which I missed having with jenson . And you have probably had tme to nap and catch up on your jobs while alike is at school and Moo is asleep. Hmm…..maybe a bigger age gap isn’t so bad then!!
    Lovely post and thanks for the mention xx

    1. I think both have their pros and cons and whatever situation we are all in we adapt to their needs and learn to handle and juggle two! Hard work whatever age they are! 🙂 x

  2. I have a 6 year 10 1/2 month gap between my two. while i never wanted such a gap it’s how things turned out. i love it my big girl is a super helper and my pair adore each other i think i would have struggled if closer in age

  3. It’s so interesting to me that you’ve not really got any cons. My brother is 14 months younger than I and I just can’t having a big age between mine of I have another. Of course it may not be my decision to make! It’s good to know that a bigger age gap can work beautifully.

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