Today I saw someone tweet a comment that someone on their Facebook had posted their c-section birth photos, the tone wasn’t hugely positive and so I enquired why she felt this was unnecessary and if she was against both c-section photos and natural or just c-section.
The discussion got me thinking. I’m well aware its not to everyones tastes to see birth photos. Mum looking rough. Baby often still covered in all the blood etc. They aren’t pretty like those posed ones you might do when the baby is a few days old. But they are real. They represent those first minutes of your babies life. With my eldest son I don’t have any from in theatre. It was an emergency section that didn’t exactly go to plan and photos were not top of my mums list and I totally understand that!
But with youngest it was a planned c-section. I’d spoken to my midwife to ask if cameras were allowed and she said yes so my mum was under strict instructions that I wanted LOTS of photos. She managed to capture a photo of eldest as he was lifted from my tummy and in the hands of my awesome consultant. I have photos of our first cuddles as I’m still lying on the operating table and hes on my chest. I have photos of him being weighed. Cutting the cord. Everything I missed out on with eldest.
And why shouldn’t I share them? They are my proudest moments and its natural to want to shout about it is it not? I have to admit I struggle to understand the ‘its personal’ side of things, if your going to be posting a birth announcement and life with your baby on your Facebook and twitter anyway, why not share that part of your life too? Its no different to the mums who allow their births to be filmed and shown on national TV surely, in a sense anyway. Then theres the argument of, but I don’t look good in the photos. Of course you don’t! No-one expects you to! You just had a baby for gods sake! The photos of me post eldest I look terrible in. I’d just almost died, had received a 6 pint blood transfusion and was swollen from all the fluids I’d been pumped with! Having a baby isn’t glamourous. But its real. Its amazing. It should be appreciated, celebrated and documented.
Personally for me when I was 16 and pregnant and using the internet as a way of learning everything I needed to learn about childbirth birth photos gave me a good idea of what to expect. I’m a visual person. Reading it is one thing but seeing it is another.
So im interested to know. Do you have photos from your children’s births? Did you share them with friends and family?